A man is like an acorn

A man’s beginning is like an acorn. He begins as something many women throw away because he doesn’t appear to be much. When an acorn is nourished by God, and nurtured and supported submissively by a good woman, he grows into a tree; big, strong, and confident. He weathers every storm, sprouting branches and leaves; swaying back and forth when strong winds try to tear him down. He keeps his roots secure in his God and his woman because he knows that without them, he would’ve broken as a twig.

I can't be that....

I can’t sit around waiting for you to get your act together. You want me to be patient while you decide if you want a committed relationship. You keep going in and out of jail, wanting me to visit you, and be here when you get out. I can’t be the one you come to me only when your husband/wife isn’t acting right; swearing by God Almighty that you’re leaving him/her. I can’t be your 2am phone call. Nor can I help you make your dreams come true when all you do is dream. I can’t be what you want me to be when you don’t know who you are. I’m not the one who will keep forgiving the same mistakes or believing all of your lies. I can’t be the one at the end of your fist, bottom of your feet, or tip of your tongue.

Let's get some understanding

You want us to hang out, chill, kick it, and do whatever comes natural, but you don’t want to commit. You want us to “act” like a couple when you’re around your friends and then expect to go back to whatever we are when we’re not together. You don’t want me to have sex with anyone but you-still you can’t say that you’ll do the same. You want me to jump whenever you call or when YOU want to spend time with me, but I don’t have the same privilege. You say that I’m “yours” but you’re not mine. You say that I should answer whenever you call and put everyone else on hold, but yet, I keep getting your voicemail. Let’s get some understanding…you think I’m a damn fool!!!

If your heart isn't in it

It’s impossible to make your heart not feel something; either it’s there or not. Sometimes love sneaks up on you when you’re not looking for it. When you know that your intentions are not the same as the other person’s wants, it would be better to be up front about what you want. Let that person decide if he/she can handle what you’re not offering. You may enjoy the company of someone, but you’re not ready, or don’t want to put your heart into a committed relationship for whatever reason(s). You’re not wrong, but you’re not right either, if you don’t let the other person know. The more time you spend with someone, eventually feelings will form. Once those feelings set in, and you’re ready to get out, it makes everything complicated; even worse if intimacy is a part of it.

TRYING TO MAKE A MAN

More than it should be, there are single mothers doing their best to make their little boys into men. Some make the mistake of trying to make them into them into the type of man they want. Some make them into mama’s boy, and some don’t really understand what a man should be. Nevertheless, they still grow up to be just what they want. It’s sad that some women today are still trying to make the males they are with into men. No one can turn an adult male into a man; he has to come into himself and grow from within. It is my prayer that mothers do their best to teach their boys responsibility and respect by setting an example for them to follow. It is my hope that grown women stop believing they can make a boy into a man.

The Cheating Cycle

The best way to stop a man/woman from cheating on their spouse is not to aid them in doing so. We all know that "cheating" spouses don’t reveal the truth unless they get caught. Sometimes, but not often, married people will be honest up front if you ask. Asking the right questions and paying attention to the small details will reveal a lot if you’re not caught up in your own truth or desperation. For the one who cheats is as bad as the one who allows it.   

Free yourself Friday

It's FREE Friday. You've been busy all week. If what happened on Monday is still with you today, free yourself. If Tuesday and Wednesday didn't go so well either, free yourself. And, if Thursday made its way into today, free yourself. YESTERDAY'S problems should not compete for TOMORROW'S worries. So, free yourself TODAY! Be Blessed.

Rain in my tears

At one point in time you’ve been hurt so bad whereas you nearly drowned in your own tears. And, if you haven’t been hurt, keep living. It’s good to cry sometimes; it releases so much. Tears help you move on. The streams that flow wash away anger and even bitterness. There are times when we cry for others. So, I say cry! Let it all out. When the dark clouds go away, the sun can shine in your life.

Get your own

People sit back quietly and study other people mates. They notice how good he/she is to that person; how their treated, and wish they had a man/woman like that in their life. Befriending someone just to get close to his/her man/woman is messy. But, that person isn’t concerned with what will happen with the “friendship” because they have their eyes on something that they want and will do anything to get. The problematic question is, could they “actually” have it? He/she may test the man/woman just to see if he/she is really into the other person. When the other person takes the bait, the scouting is over, and someone is going to get hurt-either the one who could never get his/her own, or the one who had his/her own.

Sunday Hook-up

There was a time when you could go to the park after church on Sunday and get setup with some hot items. Everyone came out to watch the “wanna-be and shoulda’ been” a baller sweat it out on the court. The single mothers brought their kids out to play while they scouted for a potential father for their kid(s). The married men came out on the prowl for another sidekick. And, the players came out for just another playmate. No matter who came out for what, everyone put on their best. Some people met the persons of their dreams, and some met their worst nightmare. Sunday at the park was a day filled with laughter, fantasies, dreams, and good old fashion get-together.