Hold your breath

We sit around waiting, and holding our breath for something that isn't going to happen, but want to happen because we feel we need it to in order to move forward. Life happens!! We experience heartbreak and disappointment. Lovers leave, lie, cheat, and hurt us in one way or another. But, if you feel you need closure, and can't seem to move on without it, you will die if you're still holding your breath. If your waiting for that woman to come back or that man to apologize for whatever he did, don't hold your breath. 

Options / Choices

You keep your options open just in case your choices don’t pan out like you want. However, you don’t consider yourself a bad person because you don’t mislead anyone. The problem is that you don’t lead either. You say that you want to settle down. You want that one who will be there no matter what, but yet you can’t decide on who you want to be with because you have too many options. You have to make the choice to want the one who doesn’t have everything you want, but has everything you need. You keep one here and one there, comparing, taking notes, only to realize you can’t build the perfect mate. You can’t make this choice with pieces of options.

HEAL MY WOUNDED HEART

 

 

Love can leave battle scars that won’t heal because of fear. So many say that it gets easier with time, but it doesn’t. That pain stays with you either consciously or subconsciously. You want to move on and love again, but you can’t. You don’t know what it’s going to take to help you. You’re not sure what you did to be subjected to so much heartache when all you did was love. And each day as you ask yourself “why me?” is another day that the wound stays open. Then someone comes along who appears to be good and right, but that open wound will not allow you to explore the possibility. After a while, that wound will fill with bitterness and anger. How can the heart heal when you won’t let it? You find yourself in a world of complacent acceptance-nothing in, and nothing out-nothing gained, and nothing loss. Heal my wounded heart you say…do you want it? Or do you want to hang on to that pain a while longer. The healing starts with you because not everyone is out to hurt but to restore.  

Just a little

It doesn't take much to please some people, and for some people, a little will never be enough. Every person should be grateful for the little things. Everything doesn't have a quantitative value. Everything should not be measured by how much you put into something; simply by how well you do it. Just a little effort, affection, attention, appreciation, and gratitude goes a long way. Start with giving just a little of yourself and watch how that little bit can seem like a whole lot.

Window Shopping

 

You’re out but not necessarily looking for anything in particular; just hoping something catches your eye. When you see it in the window, you smile. You’re thinking, that would look nice on me, I would look good in that, and I can work with it. Then, you say, “Nah!” that might to be what I want, I don’t know if I’m ready to make that investment, and maybe it won’t be my size.” In reality, you won’t know until you try it own. Don’t worry about the price you’ll pay for it because when you realize that it looks nice on your, and you look good in that, and you worked it, then the cost would’ve been worth it-even if you decide you don’t want it anymore, or you have to put it to the back of the closet.

Window shopping is used as a metaphor to how we approach relationships. We aren’t always looking for the perfect man/woman, but sometimes one comes our way and take our breath away. Sometimes we go out looking, and what we find isn’t what we were looking for-then refuse to buy into love again. Love isn’t perfect. It’s about investing time, patience, respect, honesty, and effort. It doesn’t always work out as we hope, and sometimes it does. Starting a new relationship is like window shopping; you have to try it on and see how it feels. You have to walk around in it, and see if it conforms to your needs and expectations. And as long as you work at making it fit right, look right, and feel right then you have invested well.~Wanda N. Stanley

 

Put it on Pause

Time stops for no one unless you are dead. But, there are times when you wish you could just put time on pause in order to catch up with everything that is going on. You can't. However, you can put things and people on pause. You can actually hit the stop button. If you need to be moving forward with time, and you have people or things in your life that hold you back, you have to make a choice to let them go. Drama-put it on pause. BS-put it on pause. Haters-put it on pause.

Have you?

Have you ever met that someone who made you smile for no reason/who you could talk to for hours/think about when you have a hundred other things on your mind/stimulates you mentally/shares with you his/her secrets/who laugh at your corny jokes/who enjoys you for you/who you hope is thinking about you just as much/who makes your day when you hear his/her voice/who is everything you imagined?....Have you?

It takes two

One person can work hard at making a relationship work, but he/she would be working in vain if the other don't participate or contribute to the relationship. Then, when the one who has been trying his/her best to make it work walks out, the other person has the audacity to swear they did nothing that warrants the end of a relationship. If you're one of the ones who don't talk to your mate, support, or try your hardest to make it work, then step back and allow him/her to be with someone who will.

Breaking up

You decided that it's time to move on, but it breaks your heart because you tried everything in your power to make it work. You went above and beyond forgiving, loving, and finding various ways to keep the communication and excitement in the relationship. Still...it didn't work. Letting go is never easy and staying makes it harder to accept that the relationship is over. There is no easy remedy for a broken heart.