People sit back quietly and study other people mates. They notice how good he/she is to that person; how their treated, and wish they had a man/woman like that in their life. Befriending someone just to get close to his/her man/woman is messy. But, that person isn’t concerned with what will happen with the “friendship” because they have their eyes on something that they want and will do anything to get. The problematic question is, could they “actually” have it? He/she may test the man/woman just to see if he/she is really into the other person. When the other person takes the bait, the scouting is over, and someone is going to get hurt-either the one who could never get his/her own, or the one who had his/her own.