If you're holding on to someone who doesn't want to be held, let go. If you're keeping someone hanging by string, let go. If you're holding on to bitterness, let go. If you're hanging on to the past, let go. If you're holding on to the idea that someone will change for you, let go. If you think he/she will eventually love you the way you deserve, let go. If you think he/she is going to change his/her evil ways, let go. When you let go of these things, only then will you be able to hold on to yourself.