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So many times we are looking for Mr/Mrs Right, and often times we end up with Mr/Mrs Wrong because we're in a hurry to just be with someone. We say to our inner self that we won't put up with certain things, yet we do just to be with someone. We say to our inner self that we won't allow him/her to treat me any other way than how I want to be treated, yet we do just to be with someone. We are so afraid of being alone that we never learn how to be with ourself. Take a minute to learn who you are and if you can stand yourself. When the time is right, stand your ground. I'm not talking about soft sands or rocky mountains of selfishness, greed, pride, or idealogies of perfection; stand your ground on respect, compromise, communication, standards, and trust. Stand on a solid foundation of who you are as a good woman/man who deserves to be treated like the Queen/King you are.

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Tue, 08 Nov 2011 03:34:00 -0800 Silver Plated http://wnstanley.posterous.com/silver-plated http://wnstanley.posterous.com/silver-plated

Hopefully the term “Dime Piece” is fading out because what some consider a dime piece is only a silver plated penny. Males are so concerned about the size of women waist and hips that they are not interested in what is beneath the tight fittin’ jeans and skirts, weave and make-up. Females are so caught up in the cars, designer name tags, and money rolls men flash that they don’t care about who he is without all of that. Males and females alike don’t take a second look at someone who looks worn out after a hard day of work. They don’t take the time to get to know someone from the inside out. This is why so many relationships fail, and why people waste the most precious commodity, time. Time wasted by a silver plated penny looking for a dime.

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Sun, 06 Nov 2011 13:27:00 -0800 Like ‘til you Love http://wnstanley.posterous.com/like-til-you-love http://wnstanley.posterous.com/like-til-you-love

It’s a wonderful thing when you find someone to love and have them love you back. It’s a blessing to like the way you love. We often get so caught up in love that we never learn to like the person, first. Most people are in love with the idea of being in love that they fail to understand what it means to like someone. To like someone means learning them. You like them in their good moments and in their bad. You like them not for who they are, but who they are not. And, when they display those things that you don’t like, you ask yourself if love can tolerate them.  Liking someone takes something beyond the physical and above the emotional, yet, still having nothing to do with the sexual; however, it embraces the mental part of that person. When the feeling of being in “love” fades and there is nothing left, not a tear, not an ounce of pain, just emptiness, then you’ve missed out on something special. When you find yourself being enemies, the “like” factor was never there.

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Sat, 24 Sep 2011 07:48:00 -0700 Pruning Patience http://wnstanley.posterous.com/pruning-patience http://wnstanley.posterous.com/pruning-patience

People nowadays are so busy and in a rush to do/have something without taking a moment to breathe. We sometimes focus our attention on one aspect of our life that we fail to learn other things/people in our lives, including ourselves. We are in such a hurry to make things happen right then and there that we fail to sit down and observe. Just at that moment when you think you’re ready for a relationship or success, you realize that you didn’t have enough patience to be pruned for that relationship or a successful life. If you’ve been focusing on success, then you haven’t been pruned for a relationship. If you’ve been focusing on a relationship, then you haven’t been pruned to make it a successful.

A rose has to be pruned before it can be given as token or displayed for its blooming beauty. Pruning is a process; it doesn’t happen overnight, and it takes a lot of patience. But, when God is doing the pruning, He does it with preciseness in order that you may learn patience. Wait on God to cut away your thorns.

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Sun, 04 Sep 2011 06:33:00 -0700 You're not ready http://wnstanley.posterous.com/youre-not-ready http://wnstanley.posterous.com/youre-not-ready

I hear so many people "claiming" that they are ready to settle down, find that right woman/man, and build a lasting relationship. I hear so many people say that there aren't any good/real men/women left to choose from. Sometimes I wonder when are these people looking for Mr/Mrs Right when they are still having one-night stands and casual relations. Some of these people overlook the good ones because of (a) physical flaw(s), or they don't have this or that. I've heard every excuse in the book such as he's not tall enough, she's not thin enough, he drives a garbage truck, she's so angry and bitter. Some people take being equally yoked out of context. And therefore, people are not ready to settle down and find Mr/Mrs right. It's much easier to continue doing what you've always done and use it as a crutch to avoid trying something different and someone who you would (normally) overlook. That good woman may not be a size six and that good man may not wear a suit and tie; however, when you're ready, you won't lower your standards, but you'll set expectations of mental equality and morality.

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Mon, 22 Aug 2011 02:17:00 -0700 That Man! http://wnstanley.posterous.com/that-man http://wnstanley.posterous.com/that-man

Ladies when you find that man who takes you out on a first date, opens the door for you, waits until you are seated, tells you to order something other than a salad, and doesn't try to bed you immediately after, consider a second date. If that man, calls you the next day just to say hello, inquires about the previous date, and ask for another, consider going out again. If that man is willing to tell you about his God, his fears, joys, and the little baggage he comes with, listen to him. If that man shares his dreams, desires, and goals, encourage him. If that man doesn't wear a suit to work everyday, but gets off his ass everyday with no complaints to go and work, keep that man.

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Sun, 21 Aug 2011 18:48:00 -0700 Second Impressions http://wnstanley.posterous.com/second-impressions http://wnstanley.posterous.com/second-impressions

In some cases, first impressions are everything; they can make you, or they can break you. Men and women try to make the best impression on their first date. He/she shows you the best side, and the best qualities. But, what happens when that effort to show your best side goes awry and spirals out of your control by circumstances and situations? Most would say that he/she won't get another chance. Some may find humor in it all. There are some who are more compassionate and understandable that "things" happen. I say, allow someone to woo you with a second impression because it may be the one time that makes you laugh down memory lane when he/she continues to impress you with the unexpected that made you fall in love.

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Tue, 09 Aug 2011 18:30:00 -0700 Rich Soil http://wnstanley.posterous.com/rich-soil http://wnstanley.posterous.com/rich-soil

A woman is like a seed that needs to be planted in rich soil in order to grow, flourish and blossom. She is nourished by God. When she is held in the rich soil of a good man, her roots sprout deep within him to stay secure. His soil keeps her planted and protected from being plowed like weeds. As she blooms in and out of season, his soil loosens so that her roots go deeper in him just so that she continues to grow.

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Sat, 23 Jul 2011 05:39:00 -0700 Dreams http://wnstanley.posterous.com/dreams http://wnstanley.posterous.com/dreams

It is natural to dream about a successful life, having nice things, being able to do this and that, but those are conscious dreams who most categorize as goals and wants. However, the dreams which come to us when our conscious mind should be at rest and peace leave us feeling guilty and confused, and sometimes they heed warnings to the things we’ve consciously done or were considering doing. For example, have you ever done someone wrong and never apologized? Have you lost a loved one years ago and think about them from time to time?  Has someone ever done you wrong and you have wanted to hurt them in the same manner? It’s crazy when you dream about your love one helping the one whom did you wrong, and you have an opportunity (in your dream) to do them wrong, but you don’t. Trying to remember all the details of the dream can be nerve wrecking, but trying to understand why and how it came to be is more baffling.

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Wed, 29 Jun 2011 04:35:00 -0700 A Mothers' Sorrow http://wnstanley.posterous.com/a-mothers-sorrow http://wnstanley.posterous.com/a-mothers-sorrow

Every MOTHER wants the best for her child(ren). We don’t want to see our child(ren) hurt mentally, physically, or spiritually. We do everything in our power to keep them from physical harm, emotional trauma, and spiritual turmoil. We don’t want to see our daughters make the same mistakes as we did or our sons to be like the wrong men we chose to father our children. We want better for him/her. We want to see them blossom and prosper. We want them to learn the value of effort and the benefit of value. We want them to recognize the warning signs of life. But, there is only so much we can do. He/she must still experience hurt, sorrow, love, and disappointment. All we can do as mothers is support them; be it right, wrong, or indifferent.

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Mon, 27 Jun 2011 07:48:00 -0700 A Lonely Pillow http://wnstanley.posterous.com/a-lonely-pillow http://wnstanley.posterous.com/a-lonely-pillow

When you pull the comforter back and snuggle underneath the sheets, at some point you turn over to see that unused pillow in need of a head to rest on it. You’ve thought often about the day you’d turn over and see the man/woman you’ve dreamed about, prayed for, or imagined laying next to you. You know that he/she is out there, waiting. You know that anyone can sleep on the pillow, but you need for a special one to rest on it. For the moment, you can only pull that lonely pillow close to your body and hold it tight.

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Fri, 24 Jun 2011 05:19:00 -0700 T.R.U.T.H http://wnstanley.posterous.com/truth http://wnstanley.posterous.com/truth

Dealing with the truth about yourself and others is an eye-opening and hurtful experience. For me, T.R.U.T.H means To Reach Underneath The Hurt. It means building up courage to fight the demons that hold you captive. My truth came when I had to admit that I was an addict. It hit me even harder when the state took my children away from me. Another truth overwhelmed me as I thought about all the men that raped me of my innocence and stole my childhood. I examined the truth about family members who I looked up to, but should’ve looked at, instead. It was mind blowing for me to look at myself and figure out why I was who I became. I realized that I had courage all along, but was afraid and resistant to fight. What I thought would tear me down gave me more strength and power over my truth

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Wed, 22 Jun 2011 05:08:00 -0700 Just One More Day http://wnstanley.posterous.com/just-one-more-day http://wnstanley.posterous.com/just-one-more-day

It’s amazing how much of a difference one day makes. Some people want one more day to spend with a loved one when he/she knows their time is coming to an end. You have those who want one more day to find a loved. There are those who want one more day to right some wrongs, or continue to do wrong. Yes, one day can make a difference. It can show you God’s power and the Satan’s abilities. It can take you through hell and back; allowing you to choose whom you shall serve. One day can bring you down from your own throne, or bring you up and out of your valley. When you say, “just one more day”, expect nothing and appreciate everything.

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Tue, 21 Jun 2011 05:39:00 -0700 Sharing Your Bed http://wnstanley.posterous.com/sharing-your-bed http://wnstanley.posterous.com/sharing-your-bed

When you have been single for a long time and the one you’ve been waiting and searching for has finally come along, you may find it difficult to share your bed. In the past you went to his/her bed knowing that if things didn’t work out, you could always go back to your own bed. Maybe there were times when you invited him/her to a sleepover and he/she took all the cover. Now that someone has a key to your bedroom door, you may find the adjustment a little harder to adjust to, mentally. You can no longer lock your door. You become used to things being the way you put them and the way you’ve gotten used to them being. Now, real love is ruffling your sheets and changing the comforter.

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Mon, 13 Jun 2011 05:37:00 -0700 Damned If You Do http://wnstanley.posterous.com/damned-if-you-do http://wnstanley.posterous.com/damned-if-you-do

If the man/woman you’re with has trust issues, the relationship is doomed. No matter what you do, you can never appease that person. Every place you go, and every person you talk to, smile at, and look at will be in question. If you fail to answer your phone when he/she calls, you’re going to be accused of something. If you do your best to give them all the attention you have available, it’s still not going to be enough because the one time you fail to give that attention, will be the time when they are full of doubt. You may end up spending more energy trying to convince them that you can be trusted, than actually enjoying the relationship.

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Thu, 02 Jun 2011 06:01:00 -0700 Window Shopping http://wnstanley.posterous.com/window-shopping-65254 http://wnstanley.posterous.com/window-shopping-65254

You’re out but not necessarily looking for anything in particular; just hoping something catches your eye. When you see it in the window, you smile. You’re thinking, that would look nice on me, I would look good in that, and I can work with it. Then, you say, “Nah!” that might to be what I want, I don’t know if I’m ready to make that investment, and maybe it won’t be my size.” In reality, you won’t know until you try it own. Don’t worry about the price you’ll pay for it because when you realize that it looks nice on your, and you look good in that, and you worked it, then the cost would’ve been worth it-even if you decide you don’t want it anymore, or you have to put it to the back of the closet.

Window shopping is used as a metaphor to how we approach relationships. We aren’t always looking for the perfect man/woman, but sometimes one comes our way and take our breath away. Sometimes we go out looking, and what we find isn’t what we were looking for-then refuse to buy into love again. Love isn’t perfect. It’s about investing time, patience, respect, honesty, and effort. It doesn’t always work out as we hope, and sometimes it does. Starting a new relationship is like window shopping; you have to try it on and see how it feels. You have to walk around in it, and see if it conforms to your needs and expectations. And as long as you work at making it fit right, look right, and feel right then you have invested well.

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Thu, 26 May 2011 03:25:00 -0700 No commitment required http://wnstanley.posterous.com/no-commitment-required http://wnstanley.posterous.com/no-commitment-required

Men aren’t afraid of commitment; women don’t give standards to commit to because they settle for whatever he offers. Men won’t commit to honesty because women are lying by pretending to be something they are not. Men won’t commit to loving a woman because women are given the lovin’ long before they are loved. Men don’t communicate because women aren’t talking about a man stimulating her mind; but her body. Men can’t love a woman who doesn’t love herself. Men don’t commit because dating doesn’t require commitment.

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Sat, 14 May 2011 06:16:00 -0700 The Look http://wnstanley.posterous.com/the-look http://wnstanley.posterous.com/the-look

Her cold, dark eyes peer deep into you, cutting like a samurai sword through the heart into pieces and penetrating the core of your existence. It’s that look of a woman whispers screaming you’re not taking care of her needs; neglecting her, lying and cheating. It’s the look when she’s tired of you and has had enough. Or, the look that says, “I love you more than you know” because you love on her and in her the way she’s wanted all her life. She has the look that reveals her vulnerability and weakness for only you; letting you know that you’re the best man she could ever have… Wanda N. Stanley©2010

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Tue, 10 May 2011 06:11:00 -0700 We Raise Them Right-They Go Left http://wnstanley.posterous.com/we-raise-them-right-they-go-left http://wnstanley.posterous.com/we-raise-them-right-they-go-left

As a parent, we mission to raise our children with morals and values. We validate our children so they will know their worth. We teach them right from wrong and even tell them about the mistakes we made at their age; just so that they don’t repeat the same. But, no matter how right we raise them, there is the possibility of them going left. Sometimes they don’t feel what you’re saying until they do it for themselves. Sometimes they don’t understand what they don’t know for themselves. Their choice to do what you told them not to do is just that…their choice. And although it hurts to see your child to go through any unnecessary discomforts of life, it’s the only way for them to have knowledge of life. As long as you raise them right, allow them to go left; eventually they’ll make a u-turn.

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Mon, 09 May 2011 13:13:00 -0700 When He Leave http://wnstanley.posterous.com/when-he-leave http://wnstanley.posterous.com/when-he-leave

I know you wonder why he left, and if there was anything you could’ve done to make him stay, but don’t wonder for too long. Some men have excuses and some have reasons. There comes a time when you have to let him walk or even run out of your life. Make sure you are traveling in the opposite direction. When he leaves you broken hearted, don’t think that every man will hurt you or that you’ll never love again. If he leaves you broke, don’t deny the fact that the relationship was about the money. When he leaves you for another woman, don’t blame the other woman; he wanted to go anyway.

However, this doesn’t apply if you pushed him out of your life or never let him in your heart

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