You, Me, We...
Under "normal" circumstances people need a reason of fault or blame to call it quits. Some people will take the blame and some will assign fault. The old cliche', "it's not you, it's me" always seem to be the best way to say, "I'm interested in someone else" or "I'm trying to let you down easy." Well, heartbreak feels the same no matter who is at fault. People need to learn to say, "WE didn't work hard enough at keeping this relationship together." And, "We allowed it to get this way." It's okay for both parties to take some blame; one for allowing it and the other for continuously doing it-whatever IT may be. Often enough, people repeat the vicious cycle of unacceptable behavior and sadly enough, keep going through the same heartbreaks and disappointment.